BY ABBY MAC
A few weeks ago, my school attended a sustainable business conference, initiated for high school students to see alternative methods of doing business to achieve ultimate sustainability. One of the aspects to the program was each school being lectured on an individual topic and ours was Coal Seam Gas. At the end of the presentation, we were again split into groups of four to answer questions about Coal Seam Gas. The answers we submitted would be provided to a panel of judges who would select a winner from all the schools. Surprisingly, the group I was in were announced as winners of the business conference.
We were the youngest students to attend the conference and have only just begun studying Business in school, compared to Grade 12s from other schools who have been studying for two to three years. Definitely a shock winning the conference, though, a very happy one. We donned our small prizes, caps and water bottles, and proudly walked back to school with our trophy. For the five minutes that we were oblivious to the world, being overtaken from immediate euphoria, we didn’t notice our fellow classmates snidely looking down on us. After being told “to get over ourselves”, we woke up and came back to Earth to see a sea of class members scowling at us and refusing to respond to our questions if anything was wrong. One girl turned around and gave us the finger. How endearing?
We were quickly “put in our place” and shown that our “achievement” wasn’t even “that big”, according to them. Now, after years of bullying and many mistakes, I have learnt to quietly accomplish and not live off the accolades of others to feel successful, thus, when we were awarded the prized, I didn’t jump up and down and bombard people with my feelings of absolute accomplishment and joy. No, I smiled and congratulated the other group members for their prize and hard work. Yet, I was still told to “shut up” and “get real”.
So, my question is, when did everyone reject the achievements of others? Has this always been the case or is our society forming into one of feeling cheated if another person wins or does better than you do? When did people just not accept that sometimes there will be a winner and a loser, or to not hurt their feelings anymore, almost winners?
Sometimes there will be times when you feel like you deserved something more than other person, but life is not about winning all the time. Life is not about the end result but how you recover from it or enhance it. I still can’t believe how our classmates reacted to our achievement. We weren’t from an opposing school, we were on their team. We were meant to be their friends.
I ask everyone to acknowledge that life’s not always fair but it is critical that we don’t reject our fellow mates, acquaintances, countrymen or whoever you are. Follow the well-known saying – “treat others how you want to be treated”, ensuring that when you are the one deserving praises for success, one isn’t “congratulated” with the back of another’s finger.
Are you happy for other people’s achievements? Have you encountered negative response to accomplishment?